Who Am I….

….no…..really……

        ….”Who Am I?”…..

I thought I was very clear on this point. 

As a self-professed over-thinker, I have reviewed this question in a myriad of different ways….in my own mind….with friends…..with a trusted therapist…..with anyone who would listen….  I was certain I had it all figured out.  But, even with all of this contemplation, I am floundering.

Here’s the stumbling block.  I have some attributes that are, shall we say, less than desirable. 

Honestly, I can be a real handful sometimes. Every positive that I am able to muster up is matched with an equally significant negative.  It’s my nature to tell people what I know that needs improving.  I like to beat people to the punch.  Better to point out the negatives before someone finds out. 

It’s a defense mechanism….I know this. 

It’s also an especially useful tool for a perfectionist like me. 

It is very hard to overcome. But, this is not the point of the dating site profile.  All of the research that I did on how to write the profile said to stay focused on the positive.  I am retired from a career in marketing….which when you get right down to it… is really what I am doing here.  Marketing myself.  So, intellectually, as a seasoned marketer, focusing on what’s right rather than what’s wrong is a no-brainer.  But, emotionally….well….that’s another story.   After some stern talking with myself and a little time I have managed to accentuate the positives.  I figure that someone can cull out the negative things on their own later….after they know me…..and like me.  

And, they will…..   

Like me, that is…..

So, I persisted.

I am an interesting person.  Everyone says so.  Even I believe it.

And….finally….as if I had given birth, I came up with it…..a list of positive attributes that I believe define me as a person.   And, what do you know? Everyone was right.  I am a very interesting person and a great catch for someone as evidenced by these wonderful features….

…fun

….great sense of humor

…good friend

…seasoned and adventurous world traveler

…connoisseur of all kinds of food and drink

…intellectually curious

….continuous learner

….great cook

…lover of the arts…music, theater, literature and contemporary tv series and movies

…kind

….empathetic

….compassionate

…passionate

…open minded

…independent

….self-sufficient

……smart

I am also a good writer. 

So, I should be able to spin these things into a compelling story…right?

Right.

With all of this positive information in my back pocket, I was able to weave an interesting story about myself that answers the question…Who Am I?  And, I know that the catchy header I created will draw people into my page.

My next question is will this be enough for someone?

In keeping with my focus on the positive, I am going to say yes.

But, time will tell.

I am on a journey….